Family support
Helping a loved one with PTSD
When helping to support a loved one who suffers with PTSD it is difficult to know if you are doing the right thing. It may feel like you are walking on eggshells and experience anxiety when they lose their temper.
Please visit our page for information on the signs of PTSD.
Below are some scenarios and tips given to you by PTSD sufferers and their family members.
Lack of motivation
It can feel like a daunting task supporting your loved one who has mental health issues. They may have changed dramatically since their traumatic experience, and you may feel like you don’t know them anymore. It is important to remember that the person you once knew is still there, somewhere underneath the pain and despair.
Tips:
- Take time to encourage your loved one to take part in activities that they once enjoyed. They may have lost motivation so it will take a little persuasion to bring them out of their comfort zone once again. Activities such as walking, exercise, reading and socialising with friends and family are a great way to start.
- Take things at their own pace and reassure them that it is OK if they change their mind. Try not to pressure them too much and don’t make them feel bad when they decide they need to leave the situation promptly.
- Create a routine for your loved one. A time-management diary will help them plan their day and feel a sense of accomplishment at the end of the day.
“Sometimes it’s easier to stay in bed all day when you have lost faith in life”
Feeling unworthy
People with PTSD may feel very pessimistic. It will be difficult for them to see a brighter future and to imagine life without PTSD.
Tips:
- Tell them constantly that they are loved and needed. Through your actions, you can show them that you are here to support them and care for them for the long journey you both have ahead.
- Speak positively about your future plans together and make sure you mention their involvement.
- Show them photos of happier times and let them know that there is so much more to look forward to in life.
Stress
Situations can go from normal to highly stressful in a very quick time for people with PTSD. They may lose their temper or need to get away as soon as possible, this is due to the need of having total control and the feeling of uneasiness when things aren’t going their way.
Tips:
- Make home a safe place to be. Encourage your loved one to take time for themselves to relax and recharge.
- Keep things in places where they belong. It is really important not to move their belongings if they have put them in a specific place.
- If your loved one loses their temper it is important to not take it personally and to remain calm during the outburst. Do not retaliate or get angry too, as this will escalate the problem and prolong the outburst.
It is very important to remember to take care of your mental health when supporting others. Don’t forget to do the things you enjoy and seek help when needed. If you are feeling overwhelmed, you should seek help from your GP who will put you in the right direction to get the help you need.
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